Ramadan Mubarak and may Allah grant us all the peace in this month, enriched with his mercy and blessings, Amen.

The following conversation took place between me and a wise religious coworker whom I highly respect and value:

-          The most thing that shocks me man, is the fact that a guy who’s not religious at all proposes to a girl who covers in a very conservative fashion, and who’s known to be committed religious wise. I mean, please don’t get me wrong in here, but why would a guy who doesn’t take interest in religion, as evident in his own self, become religious when he decides to get married? Sometimes it's very obvious the lady he’s proposing to is from a distinct culture than his.

-          Well, frankly speaking it’s either one of two cases: 1- Allah hadah and he’s putting his feet on the right route and he’s interested in her because he’s searching for someone who would support him and stabilize him on this path (which is rarely the case). 2- He’s seen much unhealthy feminine attitude (when he had girlfriends) and he’s starting to think that if those girls are like this they might not be loyal in case he gets married to any of them, simply because they would search for fun with somebody else the way they did with him.

So, it’s a lack of trust and the issue of “I wanna afee3 and have some fun in my life and explore through my relationships with females, but when it comes to marriage, the most serious and supposedly, eternal relationship, I’d search for someone, who’s balanced and fears Allah in her behavior, because I could lock my house and leave her behind without worrying about being betrayed”.

Come on, give me a break!

Why would it be acceptable for a guy to have as many girlfriends as he wants, and still it won’t count and he would ultimately have a clean record?! Ironically, such a guy when he proposes to a lady, is classified as: mashallah 3alayh, ma benrafad!!!

Man, people are so abusing religious commitment, for the sake of disguising their mistakes and sins, and starting new lives unloaded with consequences of sinful reckless pasts!

I do hope everybody will obtain hedaya at the end, but let’s face the fact that: mostly these people aren’t seeking hedaya and are seeking a new life, clean and healthy, yet; when they had choices previously, they never considered such a type of life?!

Guys are really abusing religious commitment, when they spend their entire lives mocking religious people, but at the same time, they end up getting attracted to and obsessed with a solid religious girl, who holds rigid values and beliefs and fears Allah for the sake of fearing Allah and not for the sake of impressing people to get married or achieving any sort of status.

If that’s what it takes, and if we have to give up many values and principles we’ve always held deep inside without questioning, and when the perfect dude, who liked us crazily because we’re clean enough and, unlike others, have no suspicious history, comes, then I’d stick to the rule I have forever stuck to: “Keep searching, someday you’ll find what you’re looking for, and never settle for something that might be less, just because people are convincing you he’s good enough and Allah ra7 yehdeeh 3ala edeeki cause you have such great influence on people”…

We as Muslims must always try to influence others and spread the message of Islam, whilst giving people all possible chances and being patient enough to nasbor 3ala athahom, because the hedaya comes from Allah after dedicating ourselves through structured hard work and making many supplications to Allah to guide these people to the right path. Meanwhile we shall not indulge ourselves in relationships that might drag us downward and affect us negatively, just because it’s too late and we need somebody by our side, especially if we have given this somebody all chances and yet, the somebody is refusing our way of living, but at the same time wants to retain us by his side, just for the sake of having some respectable well decorated persona and appearance to present to his society with full pride and confidence!

I AM JERUSALEM, and Jerusalem shall forever search for better and more descent living opportunities, until she fully realizes her aggressively progressing potential.

If you believe in yourself, then never give up and always price yourself higher than this biased market surrounding us does!