First Scenario: On the last day of my cousin Mohammad’s 3aza, Allah yer7amo, my sister in law was sitting down next to me after we both prayed el Maghreb, so we can start with the third 5etmeh of Qur’an for his soul. While I was giving my sister in law one part of the 30 parts, a lady looked at her up and down and said: "enti beddek teqra2i!!", so I took another part, and told my sister in law: "we better start before everybody leaves and we can’t finish the 5etmeh". My sister in law was very upset, she thought this lady acted like this cause she doesn’t cover (mesh m7ajabeh), I told her: "dear that’s not why she looked at you like that, the lady wanted to tell you are you gonna read Qur’an like this with no cover on? And for me I ignored her cause we would have started a long discussion that would end into a dispute requiring a knowledgeable person to settle on whether we can read Qur’an without necessarily wearing a cover?". I simply do that when I’m home, I don’t wear 7ejab while I’m reading Qur’an if no men are around… Frankly speaking I don’t know if it’s 7alal or 7aram, wallah I’m in no position to judge, but all I wanted to say is:

For God’s sake, when you wanna invite somebody to religion or more specifically, if you wanna criticize somebody’s practices, do not do it in public, avoid embarrassing them, and try to make it such a very nice private conversation full of fun that would result in establishing a rapport between you and the invitee, a matter leading probably to further future communication between both of you.

Second Scenario: As I was laughing with my other sister in law last night about the phrase: "it turns out sister that at the end he just prays el jom3a!". We were cracking at 3 o’clock this morning remembering some guys, no need to mention names here :D, who liked me and proposed to me. I asked one of them, of course it wasn’t on purpose, "betsalli?". He answered while swinging his hands in shock: "of course I do!". Ya jama3a he confessed to me two years later, when 5alas he knew I’m a hopeless case and I won’t say YES if I decided the appropriate answer is NO, he confessed that he's an on/off guy with the parayer, i.e. sometimes he would pray all 5 salawat for a long period of time and sometimes he doesn’t pray and he needs somebody to remind him of the prayer..

One more funny example guys, this guy was seeking my help in school, in a subject that I took earlier, so I told him about my young cousin who died and you have to make sure you pray all five prayers, so he said: don’t make it complicated, my brother in law didn’t use to pray and after he got married to my sister he started praying… OMG, he made me feel so stupid, when my friend told me flan seems to be very interested and I replied he’s just seeking my assistance in a hard subject! She started smiling in a wicked way, and few days later I found out that this other jom3a prayer guy was really interested and I was too slow to notice!

The point is guys: prayer is for Allah and not for anybody in this life, it’s not something that you can start doing automatically once you get married to a religious lady, it’s something that you have to do it with all your beliefs, plus, I don’t know about other ladies, but for me it reveals the man’s minimal level of commitment and persistence….

 

Have a nice blessed day, and remember to represent good images of Islam and to pray all 5 prayers at time, cause sooner or later we are following Mohammad J